Have you been so busy looking after everyone else, you’ve forgotten who you really are?

​I am sat here reflecting on the most beautiful and wonderful Manifest your Perfect 2018 Workshop that we held last Saturday. There was so much love and support in the room, it was truly beautiful.

We sat there and we worked on our goals both individually and shared some of them with the group. The support and love in the room was amazing. Those who attended now have a clear plan of action, goals, and how they are going to achieve them, whilst working with the universe.

​There was a common theme that came up during the day – a few of the people in the room had experienced, or were experiencing something that was holding them back from showing up authentically in their world.

They were working so much on trying to please everyone else. Trying to be the perfect husband, wife, mother, daughter, work colleague, human being, that they had actually forgotten who they really were.

They had lost their sense of identity, which was just heartbreaking. It is so easily done, when living the busy day to day life of trying to please everyone. Sometimes we forget to stop and reflect on our lives, our dreams, wishes and goals – we just spend so long trying to please everyone. Trying to be the perfect daughter, the perfect sister, the perfect mother, the perfect wife. Some would just be constantly on alert to answer everyone’s needs, constantly, on alert to please everybody, all the time. To a point where one of the ladies, most beautiful lady who I loved dearly, had not had a bath in several years – She’s had obviously showered etc., but she had not even taken 20 minutes for herself in YEARS, because she didn’t want to close the door on her children, even for just a little bit.

​That was heart breaking because as individuals we are worth it. We are worth taking time for ourselves. Not only are we worth taking time for ourselves it is imperative that we do. If we keep giving, and giving, and giving, and giving, and giving, and giving, which is the situation in this case, what then happens we eventually break. Eventually we just can’t give anymore, because there is nothing left to give.

Eventually, you just keep giving and you wind up exhausted and tired and fed up and utterly shattered, on that Hamster Wheel that I talk about, when I say I help people go from Hamster Wheel to Happiness, you really are the Hamster Wheel.

What happens is, the result of doing that, not only do you reach exhaustion, you reach breaking point, if you keep doing that, you forget who you are. Which is what’s happened. That was a reality of some people sitting there in the room last week, they were saying I can’t remember who I am. I can’t remember what it is, I dream of, I can’t even remember what my dreams are to manifest them.

​So their manifestation work for the year is to reconnect with who they really are, and to rediscover what their dreams are and rediscover their purpose, their reason for being here, because we all have one. We really do all have one.

It’s heartbreaking because it is something we all have the power to stop. It’s so easy to say, I know I’ve been in that mode in the past. I know that there are fears that come up. Fears of rejection from our loved ones, fears of rejection of those around us, fears of not being enough, fears of being seen to be infallible, not perfect. All these fears, that we overcome.

It is possible to overcome them. It’s about realising that if you do not take care of yourself, you simply cannot keep giving to your family, you cannot keep giving to your job, you cannot keep giving to human kind, if you do not take time for yourself.

It’s a lesson that I’ve learned through the hard way and the easy way at different times in my life. It really is a lesson. It takes, it does take dedication, intention, and higher boundaries to say no to people just for a while. It does take that, and it is about having the strength to do that sometimes.

​There are lots of different strategies that I can share, that I share with people in the Seeds of Change TM programme, that I share in our Reiki courses etc etc. Right now I want to give you something now for you to do, as my gift to you to reconnect with who you are. There are so many other things that we could cover, and I want to make it really simple.

So know that it’s important that you reconnect with who you are, because then you can start thinking in a bigger way, which is amazing. If I was still in that Hamster Wheel side of things, I wouldn’t be sitting here right now being able to give you this gift.

If I hadn’t put in practice what I teach, I wouldn’t be able to share this with you right now as I would be utterly broken. For example, last week, I took an entire day, blocked the diary off, for an entire day. I told people I was not around and I sat in a spa and read a book that I’ve been meaning to read for months.

Because I read this book, and took this time, I refilled my oil lamp & can now give even more to you. It’s really important to do this sometimes.

​We can start by making small changes before we make the big changes. So my gift to you is a loving assignment, challenge to help you move past this. It’s 3 steps, make it simple. Five minutes, ideally five minutes a day. Five minutes a week, five minutes a month. It may be more than what you are doing now.

​Step Number 1.

Communicate to your family. Communicate to those around you, communicate to your loved ones. Say, and be honest with love from your heart, that you want to reconnect with who you really are. You want to reconnect with your dreams, your goals. Whilst still being present in your family, communicate that you still love them. That you love them so much, and you want to keep giving so much, and it’s reached a point where you want to love yourself as much as you love your family. So that you can start bringing your self worth up to equal, as opposed to putting you at the bottom of the list. So communicate and tell them with love in your heart, and just say that, all you are asking for is five minutes a day, that’s it. That’s a starting point, that’s way better than what you possibly have been doing.

 

​Step number 2.

Sit quietly. Still your mind body and soul. Feel your feet on the ground. Stretching through the walls and the foundations were you are sat, to Mother Earth. Feel connected to the Divine, and Mother Earth, feel that balance and surround yourself in the most beautiful bubble of white. Just visualise it, ask for it to be there. Whatever works for you. Ask yourself, what is it that I want? What are my dreams? What are my visions? What are my goals? Where do I want to be a year from now? Listen to the answers. Listen. Hear, the answers. When you repeat this, day in and day out, answers will come. They may not come straight away, they will come. Trust in the process. Gently bring yourself back into the room and carry on with your day.

 

​Step number 3.

Every morning at the start of the day, just simply ask the Divine, your God, your Angles, your Guides, whatever resonates for you, whoever you decide that you want to communicate with. It may be that if you are not religious you want to communicate with your soul. Listen to your soul. Whatever works for you. This transcends all religions, all beliefs, all faiths, all non-beliefs. Step number three at the start of each day, ask two questions – 1) How can I serve, lovingly, whilst still empowering myself to reclaim my identity? Because you want to keep giving, it’s in your nature, that’s why you’ve got here, to this point – don’t try to fight it, find a way to serve and receive in balance. 2) What can I do today take action on reclaiming my identity, moving towards my big goal? Some days it will be huge, some days it will be small things. Some days meditation will be incredible and others it will be challenging and that’s ok. That’s really ok.

​This is a simple process and what’s a important is the repetition. If it’s only once a month you do this, you’re still doing more than you did before. Just don’t worry about it, just do what you can.
​Let me know how you get along. Let me know what you think of this video. Enjoy reclaiming who you are. Enjoy rediscovering your dreams and your goals if they’ve gone. Enjoy putting yourself first for five minutes.

Sometimes this is more than people have done in a long time. Please believe me. Having being on the Hamster Wheel, having going through that process of being on my knees broken and tired and exhausted. I have learnt that eventually, if you keep going and you don’t take time for you, something will crack – Whether it be physically, emotionally, in my case it’s physically and emotionally, because I didn’t listen to the emotionally exhausted signs that were all around me. I ended up in a car accident in and I had to take months off of work.

​Please believe me that this is one of the most important things you can do. Because if you don’t, you simply can’t keep giving the way that you are. As the phrase goes you cannot pour from an empty cup.

​So that’s my loving message, assignment, and challenge to you. Please let me know how you get on with this. I can’t wait to hear your story. wishing you the most amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing week,

​With so much love,
​Kate, mynaturalhappiness.com
​Helping you go from Hamster Wheel to Happiness TM.